This is Thin Privilege

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thin privilege is being able to search tumblr for “couples” and find a good amount of cute pictures with people who look like you (basically, much more cute pictures than porn). don’t even try searching “fat couples” unless you want almost all porn to show up. sexualized is different than embraced. i just want to find pictures of couples who aren’t always thin! 

Thin privilege is being taken seriously when you have a PhD

I got my phd from Princeton and now I teach classes at Harvard. I teach classes on health and obesity and I am a big advocate for HAES. my goal is to stop fatshaming around campus and rid the world of that plague. 

But when I tell people about my research, they don’t believe me. They think that I’m making it all up. Sometimes people at the coffee shop will ask to see papers as if I just carry a million papers and science experiments around with me everywhere I go. 

And yet, nobody ever asks thin people for evidence. Nobody ever wants them to carry around a bunch of research when they’re just getting coffee. It’s fatshaming. 

Thin Privilege is to have people believe what you say, even if you’re qualified to say it.

Avril lavigne - Hello Kitty

I don’t know if you guys have heard Avril Lavigne’s new song Hello Kitty…

In the beginning of the song it mentions “Like a fat kid on a pack of smarties”

I always thought Avril was better than that :( 

What is your opinion? Am I overreacting or is it fatphobic?

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That line is just one small aspect of the whole video being horrible. Racism, cultural appropriation, fat phobia etc. The line itself is just play off of the phrase “like a fat kid on cake,” and was pretty boring / unoriginal…like the entire video.

I’m still surprised that she is a year older than me but still is trying to act the exact same as she did when I was in high school.

-FBP

Here are two for the moms

[tw: eating disorders]

1) I had surgery while pregnant and was given several days worth of antibiotics. My digestion was destroyed and food went right through me. In less than a week I lost 15lbs. I was 30 weeks pregnant which is when my baby was supposed to be rapidly gaining. Both my midwife and surgeon said it wasn’t a problem because I had so much extra weight anyway. Ignore the 6 bowel movements a day, I was fat and it’s always acceptable to lose lots of weight very quickly, even when pregnant.

2) Despite my best efforts, postpatum depression has crept in under the radar. Despite being in the fat acceptance community since 2005, I still struggle with hating myself. And after months of hardly eating, to the point I was having chest pains and dizzy spells, I still didn’t see anything wrong with it. I had energy, I wasn’t sullen, just overwhelmed with motherhood and financial problems. Then one day I wondered about the side effects of anorexia and if “they” (thin anorexics) experience the same symptoms as me. Then I saw almost all of the same exact signs and symptoms that I have, the things I’ve been doing for months and never even knew it. I didn’t believe anything was wrong with starving myself because I’m fat. As pounds came off, I was actually happy, despite all the harm it was doing. I’m supposed to be making milk for my baby, I’m supposed to be running around and enjoying my children, but all I could think about was the food I wasn’t eating and having to take more pills to force my body to make milk. And then I would get so hungry, and so emotional, I’d binge. I couldn’t have anorexia, I’m incredibly fat. If I were to have an eating disorder, it would be overeating, right? The binging, that was really my problem! No, I had somehow developed anorexia and didn’t even realize it, I didn’t even know how much I need help. A lot of my problem is that I refuse to ask for help, I don’t deserve help, I don’t deserve to eat food.

Thin privilege is having both medical professionals and yourself inherently understanding that you deserve to eat food and that sudden dramatic weight loss is a bad thing. Thin privilege is not having your baby’s life and wellbeing put at risk because of bias.

Re: Thin privilege is being able to buy confectionery and other sweet things at the supermarket and knowing that the cashier won’t take it from your bag when you’re not looking.

How fucking privileged are you to not understand that a waitress or cashier NEEDS that job simply to get by and would never risk it just to “concern troll”?!?!?

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How privileged are you to not understand that people can and have done this kind of thing? As someone who worked in the food service industry for 5+ years I can absolutely attest to this kind of thing happening. I’ve had fellow waitresses just happen to “forget” to bring someone dessert or modify food a customer ordered because they didn’t think they should have it. I know it happened because after the person left they thought it was hilarious and just had to laugh and LAUGH about it with my coworkers.

The vast majority of people who work in retail or food service do need their jobs and wouldn’t risk doing something so silly but many people would. 

-FBP

Thin privilege is being able to buy confectionery and other sweet things at the supermarket and knowing that the cashier won’t take it from your bag when you’re not looking.

This has happened to me three times this year whenever I go to a certain supermarket in town and meet the same cashier.  The last time it happened, I made sure I checked my bags before I left and then marched right back in, demanding why I’ve always been defrauded by her.  And she gave me the most astonished look, and said that I shouldn’t be eating such things and that she’s ‘saving my life.’ 

Like, she didn’t think that what she was doing was theft or illegal in any way.  In her mind, she was saving the fat girl from the dangers of a few bars of chocolate.  And I’m completely sure that she does it to other fat people that shop there too.  I’d stop going to that place but it’s the only local supermarket in town that sells the type of rice that I like eating.

Fictional fat sci-fi YA protagonist!

An early YA science-fiction series, Animorphs by K.A. Applegate, had six protagonists and one of them, Cassie, was fat. The first twenty or so books were updated and re-printed a couple of years ago, and all the originals can be found pretty easily at thrift stores or on ebay. 

Cassie is treated respectfully by the series, she’s mentioned a few times to be fat but not described as constantly eating or treated as ugly. She’s the team’s “moral compass”. She and another character, Jake, have a romance subplot that’s treated respectfully and is very cute. She’s the most skilled morpher of the team and successfully performs BRAIN SURGERY on another character. What I’m saying is she’s a great character. You can buy all the Animorphs books here. http://www.ebay.com/bhp/animorphs-complete

(NOTES: I wouldn’t give the books to anyone younger than twelve, as some parts are pretty disturbing. Also, the book covers portray her as average weight. She was only mentioned as fat a few times.)

I work at a bakery, and yesterday my boss pointed to a customer and said “unfortunately I just sold that fat lady a cheesecake. She shouldn’t be buying that” (indicating she would have rather a thin person bought her product, as if they are more entitled to shopping at her bakery). Then she went into all the reasons that person must be overweight: eating habits, thyroid problems, etc.

Thin privilege is being considered a more valuable customer, as well as not having your body and health analyzed every time you buy something. 

tw: abuse, ED talk

Thin privilege is not feeling that your mother’s love is conditional depending on whether or not you work out.

I’ve always been a bigger gal, and when I was around 10 or 11 years old, my mother would look at me in disgust and say, “You need to start doing sit-ups/working out.”

This continued on for many years, and once I started to lose weight, she seemed to be happier around me and wouldn’t say any negative things about my body as much, minus a few times when she would tell me I “had enough food” at dinner. For my brother, however, she would not say anything, even when he was chubby, because at least he was a lot thinner than me.

Hearing her negative comments all my life has caused me to feel extreme guilt when I eat. For a few months this year, I would eat once a day or less and work out vigorously to make the guilt go away, and of course, when I went home from college for break, she and my father both commented on how “good” and “thin” I looked. Neither of them know that I’ve been seeing a counselor for my depression, anxiety, and you guessed it, an eating disorder.

I have since told my brother, and he confessed to me that he had also been starving himself for a month or so and that’s why my mother always makes sure he’s well fed and buys him food all the time.

Thin privilege is not thinking that your mother cares more about your brother’s well-being just because he is a lot thinner (and a foot taller, I might add, which makes him appear leaner) than you.

[tw: fat shaming, abuse, ableism, fat discrimination]

Thin privilege is thinking it is some how acceptable to post this horribly hateful, ableist fat-shamey facebook status:

"I’m anti-alcohol shaming. You should all be ashamed of yourselves, he can’t control that he drinks, an who are you to say his lifestyles is wrong. He’s born with natural liver-pickling and it’s a hereditary trait. It’s beautiful and you should learn to accept it.

(that’s how you sound when you bitch about fat shaming)”

This is what I logged on to facebook to see staring back at me the other day. By the time I saw this status, 8 people had liked it and a few people had gone back and forth making cruel fat-shaming jokes such as “fat people will go dry their tears with chicken nuggets” and a photo of a fat woman surrounded by food saying “It’s not the 13,000 calories she eats a day, it’s genetics.”

As I was already worked up over a fat-shaming incident I had experienced earlier that day, I immediately commented, calling the op out for using people with alcoholism as a prop to fat-shame other people. We went back and forth for a while, him trying to claim that obesity and alcoholism were both diseases that had similar affects on people while I said that you can’t compare the two as they are very different situations and it is insulting to both groups of people to do so.

Eventually I ran out of spoons when some other asshole decided to chime in and tell me, “Boo hoo,” and “Fat people are a disgusting plague upon the earth.” I ended my part by saying that they were hateful assholes who’s gross opinions did nothing but hurt other people and deleted my original “friend” off of my facebook.

I haven’t had any backlash from it although we have quite a few friends in common. The op is a notorious ass who loves being a sexist, ableist, fat-phobic douche. The oddest part about it is that he is quite fat. Internalized fat-phobia? 

It’s mind-blowing to me that people think they can just get away with saying this horrible shit and then actually see support from their community in the form of “likes” and comments. 

TW: weigh loss talk

I am on the smaller side of the fat spectrum, but living in a city where going to the beach is an important part of our sociabilty and growing up with a father who adores to body police any woman in his life (and who put me in Weigh Watchers when I was 10 years old) I’ve always felt a bit uncomfortable in my body and nowhere did I feel more uncomfortable than in a gym. But it has been years since last put foot in one and this month I decided to try again and get myself a Gym membership. I used to take pilattes classes (which I loved because the teacher and my colleagues were amazing people) but I can’t really afford it right now as it is so much more expensive than traditional gym places. So, the first step was to do an evaluation. I knew they were going to weigh me (which I dislike) but I thought they were also going to do things like measuring my heart rate during exercise, see how my flexibility is doing and thing like that. But no. They just measured me, weighed me, asked me if I has any diseases and told me my percentage of body fat is really elevated and that I need to loose 10kg. And that was after I told them loosing weigh wasn’t my goal. That I just want to improve my overall cardiorespiratory fitness and find a way to relieve stress. 

Oh, and my husband, who is really thin, also joined the gym and did this evaluation thing. And guess what? They treated him SO much better and were way more careful with him about any issues he might have because his left shoulder is a little lower than his righ one (mine is too but they didn’t care)  

Thanks God I am at a point in my life I can just ignore this kind of stuff and go ahead do my exercise because I know it is good for me and makes me feel less anxious. Had this happened a few years ago I would probably have just given up on the whole thing.

Thin privilege is being taken serious when you state what your fitness goals are.

(Please forgive any mistakes, english is not my native language)

Celebrity quote (Jennifer Lawrence)/Thin Privilege Is…

Thin Privilege is a picture of Jennifer Lawrence quoted as saying “I’m considered a fat actress. I eat like a caveman. I’ll be the only actress that doesn’t have anorexia rumors! I’m never going to starve myself for a part. I’m invincible. I don’t want little girls to be like, “Oh, I want to look like Katniss [from the Hunger Games], I’m going to skip dinner!” being re-posted all over Facebook by my skinny friends.

Here’s the thing. If I said I wanted to look like Katniss, I would bet money on the fact that a few people would tell me to eat less/skip dinner sometimes. She is not fat and I am tired of her being pushed to the body acceptance forefront when she is, in fact, an ideal hourglass shape. Also, the “I eat like a caveman” part really stuck with me because of the recent discussion here about thin girls saying they love candy/food getting very different responses than fat girls who say the same thing. Here, her supposed eating habits are celebrated; if a regular fat person said they ate like a caveman (even in the same light-hearted  tone), they would be opening themselves up to criticism. That is because she does have thin privilege. 

Thin privilege is getting the “at least you’re not fat as well” speech from doctors.

I’m a naturally thin person who suffers joint pain and stiffness as a result of developmental hip dysplaysia (DDH). For the past six months or so I have also been underweight as a result of another medical condition.

Every time I see a doctor about my hip pain I get a little speech about how it will all be OK because I don’t weigh much so it won’t get worse as quickly as it would in a larger person. (I have no idea if this is true or not, it’s just something I get told a lot. Even if it is true, weight loss would not fix the underlying issue and treatment would still be needed.) Of all the doctors I have seen since being diagnosed, all but one have mentioned my weight in this context.

I also hear similar things from other people with my condition. Every time I’ve spoken to someone else with DDH in person they have either commented on my weight, or mentioned that doctors have commented on their weight.

I hate to think how this would play out for someone who is considered to be “too large” by doctors. It’s taken me twelve years to get even the promise of treatment and I wasn’t asked to do anything difficult or impossible before other options were considered. Good luck to anyone who has been asked to lose weight as a “treatment” for DDH or related conditions. I hope you find a doctor who takes you seriously and doesn’t get hung up on weight loss.