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Thin privilege is being provided the required uniform for your job at no cost to you, while your plus-size coworkers are being charged $2.00 for their uniforms because “larger sizes cost extra.”  Excuse me, but when you’re willing to shell out forty bucks for each employee’s uniform, the extra two dollars don’t matter.  It’s just petty.  And bringing it up in the middle of a staff meeting is extremely inappropriate and basically gives the entire staff permission to openly ridicule fat workers.  And “you should be glad they even gave you the job,” is never, ever okay to say.

THIN PRIVILEGE IS Prom Dress Shopping. 

Thin privilege is the ease of access and cost to finding a dress you want to wear for prom. When you walk into a store and they dont have your “size” but they have the style and colour of dress you want. Having the employees look at you in weird and odd manners and treating you different because they dont have your sizes therefore arent worth your time. Or if your looking online you have to pay freaking extra for the dress you want because you need it on a custom order and they dont have your size. but if you have over a 47 inch bust it’s another $47 on top of the $45 your paying for the custom order because it “requires more fabric.”

Thin privilege is being able to sit down in a pair of jeans and not have to worry about your friends making fun of your “muffin top.”  It’s not being afraid hang out in your own livingroom because your flatmates might pick on you for wearing “frumpy” clothing.  Because on a skinny person, sweatpants aren’t anything worth noticing.  But on a fat person, you must only be wearing sweatpants because you don’t fit into your other pants anymore.  

Thin privilege is people commenting things such as “You’re so beautiful, I wish I looked like you, you’re stunning, you’re such a beautiful person, I love your fashion I love your style” etc. on your Instagram pictures.

My friend is very skinny and constantly posts pictures on Instagram , sometimes up to 20 a day. She has a lot of followers who post comments on her pictures and fawn all over her even though they don’t know her. They just assume she’s a wonderful and caring person even though they don’t know what she’s really like, just because she’s pretty and thin. It’s so hurtful when she tells me that she has more followers than me. When I see all the comments on her pictures and I get none I know it’s because I’m fat and my fashion isn’t like hers because I can’t find clothes that look like that on me.

Thin privilege is people telling you every day how perfect you are even if you don’t need to hear it because you already know it. I know not all thin people think that but my friend does. Sorry if this isn’t making sense but English isn’t my first language.

Fat rant about plus size fashion

Have you guys heard about Jennie Runk, the “plus size” model for H&M that just announced their summer swimsuit line, who used Jennie for model both one piece suits and bikinis? I for one am happy that fashion is starting to use average (or rather, slightly smaller than average) women, but it pisses me off that these models are called “plus size.” She is a size 12 for fuck sake; if you want real plus size, how about a 24, 28 or even a 32?

Another another bullshit thing is that the above linked articles talk about her “healthy curves.” So are my curves unhealthy? My blood work suggests otherwise.

All in all, I will be happy when fashion starts consistently using the averages for their country, but I will be thrilled when they start using people from all ranges and races. It just better be within my lifetime.

Thin privilege is knowing that a major brand won’t discontinue your size.

After a phone call and a flurry of emails back and forth, I finally got a straight answer out of someone: Calvin Klein Jeans will no longer be produced in plus sizes. I don’t really wear anything BUT jeans- these were the perfect jeans for my style and my body and so comfortable. I have been patching my oldest pair to make them last longer in the hopes of finding new pairs, but it appears that won’t be happening.

I am so incredibly upset that they would do this. Finding clothes (stylish clothes to boot) is so hard for a fat person. This difficulty has contributed to my brand loyalty; when I find a company that makes something perfect for me, I am their customer for life. I am nearly in tears over the fact that I am going to have to search for jeans again.

I thought you might be interested in an article I wrote about how people treat me differently now that I am a fat man vs. when I was perceived to be a fat woman: Male Privilege and Transitioning From a Fat Woman to a Fat Man I am a fat man. Once, I was perceived to be a fat woman. My transition has taught me a lot of things that I might not have otherwise engaged with if I had lived my life as a cis person. Transitioning really highlights male privilege and how society can treat you completely differently based on what gender it perceives a person to be. As soon as I started ‘passing’, I found I was treated with a respect that wasn’t often given to me as a woman. My personal space and boundaries were no longer violated, I was no longer talked down to, and people suddenly respected my right to privacy and my right to be left alone. I was no longer treated as if I simply existed for men’s pleasure. Similarly, my body was no longer overtly criticised. Fat women are disproportionately targeted in Western society. They are subjected to public humiliation and discrimination every day, simply because of their bodies. They are stared at in the streets, they are under-represented in media (and then, only as the butt of a joke), and they are targeted with verbal and physical violence. Fat men are also at the mercy of some stereotypes – laziness being the most common. However, I can now exist as a fat man largely without comment. I can shop for clothes in most stores rather than being turned away at the door and told that they don’t stock my size. Clothing companies cater to my needs, considering my body type ‘average’ (even if I am on the short side). Most clothing stores that cater to men stock from small to XXL and many beyond that. Meanwhile, despite the fact that the average dress size of a woman in the US is a size 14, many clothing outlets aimed at women will not stock above a size 12. Some stores such as Abercrombie do not stock above a women’s size 10 whilst simultaneously stocking XL and XXL in men’s sizes. This imbalance, and the effect it has had on my life and the way that people perceive me, is one of the clearest and most startling examples of male privilege and sexism that I have encountered. It all comes down to the patriarchal view that women are somehow obligated to make themselves attractive to men. That men are entitled to gaze upon and comment upon women’s bodies. When I was perceived to be a fat woman, there was a real sense of not just disgust, but a poisonous, malignant contempt. People (most commonly men) commented on my appearance like I somehow owed it to them to be, in their view, attractive. Like I was breaking some kind of cardinal rule because I was happy with my body without their approval. Now, in complete contrast, I am barely given a second glance. Occasionally, I still face discrimination as a fat man, but it’s not as vehement, societally sanctioned nor pervasive as it once was. My treatment has changed simply because of the way that society perceives my gender. This is male privilege in action. We live in a society that has built a whole industry on bullying women for not being what is considered ‘attractive enough’ to men. Think about that the next time you want to stare at a fat woman on the bus. Michael Young http://www.therainbowhub.com/home/male-privilege-and-transitioning-from-a-fat-woman-to-a-fat-man/

I thought you might be interested in an article I wrote about how people treat me differently now that I am a fat man vs. when I was perceived to be a fat woman:

Male Privilege and Transitioning From a Fat Woman to a Fat Man

I am a fat man. Once, I was perceived to be a fat woman. My transition has taught me a lot of things that I might not have otherwise engaged with if I had lived my life as a cis person. Transitioning really highlights male privilege and how society can treat you completely differently based on what gender it perceives a person to be. As soon as I started ‘passing’, I found I was treated with a respect that wasn’t often given to me as a woman. My personal space and boundaries were no longer violated, I was no longer talked down to, and people suddenly respected my right to privacy and my right to be left alone. I was no longer treated as if I simply existed for men’s pleasure.

Similarly, my body was no longer overtly criticised. Fat women are disproportionately targeted in Western society. They are subjected to public humiliation and discrimination every day, simply because of their bodies. They are stared at in the streets, they are under-represented in media (and then, only as the butt of a joke), and they are targeted with verbal and physical violence.

Fat men are also at the mercy of some stereotypes – laziness being the most common. However, I can now exist as a fat man largely without comment. I can shop for clothes in most stores rather than being turned away at the door and told that they don’t stock my size. Clothing companies cater to my needs, considering my body type ‘average’ (even if I am on the short side). Most clothing stores that cater to men stock from small to XXL and many beyond that. Meanwhile, despite the fact that the average dress size of a woman in the US is a size 14, many clothing outlets aimed at women will not stock above a size 12. Some stores such as Abercrombie do not stock above a women’s size 10 whilst simultaneously stocking XL and XXL in men’s sizes.

This imbalance, and the effect it has had on my life and the way that people perceive me, is one of the clearest and most startling examples of male privilege and sexism that I have encountered. It all comes down to the patriarchal view that women are somehow obligated to make themselves attractive to men. That men are entitled to gaze upon and comment upon women’s bodies.

When I was perceived to be a fat woman, there was a real sense of not just disgust, but a poisonous, malignant contempt. People (most commonly men) commented on my appearance like I somehow owed it to them to be, in their view, attractive. Like I was breaking some kind of cardinal rule because I was happy with my body without their approval. Now, in complete contrast, I am barely given a second glance.

Occasionally, I still face discrimination as a fat man, but it’s not as vehement, societally sanctioned nor pervasive as it once was. My treatment has changed simply because of the way that society perceives my gender. This is male privilege in action. We live in a society that has built a whole industry on bullying women for not being what is considered ‘attractive enough’ to men. Think about that the next time you want to stare at a fat woman on the bus.

Michael Young

http://www.therainbowhub.com/home/male-privilege-and-transitioning-from-a-fat-woman-to-a-fat-man/

Thin privilege pervades the Lolita subculture.

Thin privilege pervades the Lolita subculture. 

If you aren’t under a size ten (I believe?) It becomes incredibly difficult to find anything that isn’t an accessory to wear. There are some off-brand manufacturers who do custom sizing, but from what I’ve heard a lot of Lolita communities scoff at people who can’t fit into or can’t afford brand clothing. 

Obviously, the entire subculture isn’t filled with fat shamers, but it’s bad enough to keep me and others away… Despite identifying with the style, I’m terrified of ever going to a meetup or posting a picture on the internet. It almost certainly would end up being posted somewhere for people to mock.

Thin privilege is, when being told that having FEW options under size 4 for a prom dress is still a hell of a lot better than having NO options for a prom dress, continuing to thinsplain and say that thin people have just as hard a time shopping for dresses as fat people.

Thin privilege is being unable to empathize with a fatter person, and thoughtlessly appropriate their experiences because your thin experience is more important than their fat experience.

-ATL

I'm Not sick of you yet: thisisthinprivilege: I was shopping for prom and as I went to look at...»

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thisisthinprivilege:

I was shopping for prom and as I went to look at the dresses. Thin privilege is walking into any dress store and finding tons of beautiful dresses while I can only find one dress that doesn’t even look remotely good on anybody.

Actually I am skinny and it was hell…

reblogging for the second comment. I went to a dress store with hundreds of dresses and only 8 were under size 4. Being thing makes it hard to find things that fit.

You know how many of those stores likely had more than ZERO dresses over a size 24, heck, probably a size 18 or 20? Probably not many. If you can go to ten stores (hell, a single mall probably has at least five stores with straight size prom dresses at various price points, so that’s like, two mall trips) and find 80 dresses total to choose from under a size 4, that’s not fucking bad. That’s pretty fucking sweet, actually. You know how many malls usually carry prom dresses for people over a size 24 (which might add up to the same percentage of people under size 4 who need a dress)? Just thinking in my area, which is a built-up part of New England near a few malls, I can think of maybe a single store (Torrid, in this case). 

So that’s maybe 8 options for someone over a size 24 (and if you’re over a size 28 you’re SOL), and at least 80 options for you. And if you live in some kind of skinny-fashion haven like NYC or SoCal your choices increase exponentially. 

So yeah. Shopping for prom dresses while fat is not at all like the “paltry” 80 choices you might have as a very thin person. Your thin privilege is definitely showing.

EDIT: Not to mention that this doesn’t even include the fact that it’s much easier for a thin person to shop online if there aren’t many local options for their body type. Or that they can always take a larger dress in but that larger people can’t make a too-small dress bigger. 

-ArteToLife

Thin privilege is thinking it’s okay to make a pair of tights that can fit the legs of a person up to size 30 while not bothering to make sure that the waist does.

And I quote:

CAN be worn on the legs up to a size US 30 petite however the waist band does not fit around the waist so if you are comfortable wearing the tights around the top of your thighs, there should be no issue of fit in the leg dept.

Yeah, if you’re over a size 20, apparently, you can TOTALLY wear these tights, I mean as long as you don’t mind them dangling around your ass and having to pull them up even more often than you would normally, THERE’S NO ISSUE AT ALL.

Why not just make sure the waist can fit larger sizes?  Why not make a separate pair that can fit larger sizes?  Why not just make them thigh-highs with a band that will help hold them up at the thigh that can actually fit sizes 20+ instead of telling larger sized people to just not put them on all the way?

Why not just admit you don’t actually give a shit about customers size 20+ instead of trying to sell them products that don’t actually fit them?

thin privilege isn’t being afraid to wear shorts when it’s hot out. thin privilege isn’t feeling like you don’t deserve to eat.

Today I wore shorts for the first time since last summer. I’m considered overweight so I’ve been scared about showing ANY skin. I live in a dorm so I went downstairs to buy some lunch since I hadn’t eaten all day. I have anxiety about that too. I feel like everyone is judging me trying to purchase food (or god forbid candy or something) so I can survive like any other human being.

When I walked into the dorm cafeteria all of the older cafeteria workers taking a break stopped talking when I walked in and blatantly stared at me. I don’t think anything could have been more obvious. Then someone whispered a comment and the rest of them started laughing. Even when I proceeded to walk out they all just sat and stared at me like they were in shock someone who looks like me would have the audacity to wear shorts. I forgot that old women could be that cruel.. I shouldn’t be afraid to wear shorts or feel like I don’t deserve to eat. 

Abercrombie doesn't want fat people to wear their brand»

Mod addition (quoted from the article): 

It’s not surprising that Abercrombie excludes plus-sized women considering the attitude of CEO Mike Jeffries, said Robin Lewis, co-author of The New Rules of Retail and CEO of newsletter The Robin Report.

“He doesn’t want larger people women shopping in his store, he wants thin and beautiful people women,” Lewis told Business Insider. “He doesn’t want his core customers to see people who aren’t as hot thin as them wearing his clothing. People who wear his clothing should feel like they’re one of the ‘cool privileged kids.’” 

(strike-outs and bold fixes mine. Because, seriously, this is all about misogyny and fatphobia. The privileging of thinness at its ‘finest.’ -ATL)