This is Thin Privilege

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Thin privilege is not having guys assume you’re desperate and willing to degrade yourself for them because of your size.

I recently started dating a guy and things seemed to be going well. The only problem was that he would get way too aggressive and rough during our lovemaking. His dirty-talk would always involve my size, meaning he would say things like “take it you fat bitch” and make me feel ashamed of my body during sex. He was so rough that it left me bruised and in pain for days afterwards. I was not into that.

Enough was enough, so I told him that we need to set some ground rules for intimacy. I asked him to be more gentle and to stop fat-shaming me during sex because it’s something I’m very sensitive about. His response was so cruel that it left me in tears:

"If I wanted to follow some bullshit rules, I’d be in a real relationship with a normal girl. You think you deserve to be treated like a lady? No, you deserve to be treated like the fat pig you are. If you knew what was good for you, you’d keep your mouth shut and be glad that someone like me is even paying attention to you."

I was so shocked that I was speechless. I just left without saying anything and cried the whole way home. It’s going to be hard for me to get into another relationship after experiencing something like that. I’ll always be scared that the guy I’m seeing just views me as an easy lay he can throw away at a moment’s notice.


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    BRB sobbing in a corner…
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    Saddened and totally unsurprised that this shit runs across communities of people with differently marginalised bodies...