Thin privilege is never being insulted for giving money to a homeless person.
The other day I was eating lunch at the front of a coffee shop, when a homeless man approached me and asked for some change. I happily obliged, giving him a few dollars (it was all I had left in my purse). But instead of thanking me, he said, “That’s all you’re giving me? What, are you saving the rest of your money to stuff your fat face some more?!”
I was so shocked, I almost felt like crying. Even when fat people do a good deed, we are still faced with hatred and fatphobia. It’s sad how a single comment can ruin an enjoyable lunch break. :(
Im going to be a doctor. This blog, it just makes me want to be a doctor more so I can treat my larger patients w/ respect unlike everyone else. Thanks for opening my eyes to this medical discrimination so that I can incorportate it into my practice.
We do not care what anti-fat people of any size want us to do with this blog. We do not care that you think being fat is unhealthy. We do not think that our health is any of your fucking business. We do think that you whining about how we ought to do this or that, that we should talk about health, that we shouldn’t cuss, whatever, is concern trolling. It’s trolling, it’s hateful, it’s rude. FUCK OFF.
Also, seriously, people, the FAQ exists. Before you ask us a question, go read it. If you ask us a question that is answered there, we are likely to do one or more of the following: Not respond to you at all; tell you to read the FAQ; tell you to fuck off. We do not owe you answers. We do not owe you a conversation, we do not owe you space here. You are wasting our time.
For xshatielx, just make them think it doesn't bother you. They'll stop if they think it doesn't bother you, all they want is a reaction. Try your hardest to work on your body language, give no signs of being thrown off by their games. Hold your head high and just conversate with your daughter. Tell her how beautiful she is and smile at her. Her smile will more than likely help cheer you up as well!
No, they won’t. Bullies do not stop bullying if they don’t get a reaction, they keep cranking it up until they get a reaction. Many studies on bullying show this. “Ignore them” doesn’t work.
1. Fatness is not a disease (despite what the AMA says)
2. The primary other usage of “rehabilitation” refers to centers where people can recover from physical and mental illnesses, including chronic disorders. Fatness is not a disease or disorder.
3. “Rehabilitation” can also be used (though I think incorrectly) to refer to therapeutic centers for disabled people. The problem with conflating fatness and the disabled is that it ignores all the people who are both disabled and fat, and the fat people who are not otherwise disabled (just fat).
So even if the name of that place wasn’t meant to suggest that fatness is a food addiction (which is such a popular belief that there’s no reason to think that even if it wasn’t their intent that the name would provoke some people to think this way) there are other problematic points about the word “rehabilitation.”
The image is also terrible on a variety of levels. It’s reminiscent of a “boot camp” atmosphere where you go to “rehab” from your bad behaviors by being shouted at by camp counselors and doing hard labor. What reasonable rehabilitation center — in the traditional sense of rehabilitation — markets its center with a picture of a man who looks like he’s in pain?
(and no, I do not agree that the “no pain no gain” culture is in general a good thing)
*edited to change “differently abled” to “disabled”
I'm not fat and I suppose thin and I have a hard time getting doctors to take some of my health concerns seriously (concerns about hypothyroidism, cholesterol, and heart health). The might be right in that I'm probably perfectly fine, but I also don't like having these issues dismissed, especially since heart disease runs in my family--where we tend to put weight on as we age but at least on one side nobody is fat. I know I have thin privilege, but how do I classify this negative aspect of it?
This is the double-edged sword of fat discrimination, stereotypes, and bigotry — where some conditions get so conflated with fatness that people who aren’t fat and suffer those conditions have a harder time getting help because of it.
This is like how hyping so-called masculinity and the pressure some boys feel like when/if they have a hard time expressing those traits (as defined by the culture). It’s a part of bigotry against women that masculinity is seen as a necessary trait to have by men and boys in the culture, because being a woman is a bad thing (and for women, expressing masculinity is seen as bad because the culture wants women to keep in their place as defined).
When we get messages here about stereotypes thin people are subject to those stereotypes are usually related to sexism, ableism, or fatphobia in some way. Sometimes the submitters realize this and fallaciously umbrella fatphobia under sexism, and/or ableism in order to make their point (usually that fatphobia isn’t a thing and anti-thin stereotyping is “just as bad”), but fatphobia is its own phenomenon that exists apart from those other forms of discrimination (though there is a lot of intersection). Able-bodied white men also experience fatphobia, though not as a person who inhabits other underprivileged space or spaces would.
I hope this answers your general question. Sorry you’re having trouble getting help. I was speaking to a thin friend of mine this morning and she was mentioning that people often didn’t believe her when she mentioned her very petite and very thin family has a history of high cholesterol and heart disease (leading often to death), because those disorders are conflated with fatness.
"edited to remove some problematic language
Thin privilege is the fact that obesity rehabilitation facilities exist.
One of my friends recently liked this page on Facebook, so it popped up on my news feed. I was horrified to discover that “obesity rehabilitation” even exists. My body is not some sort of addiction that needs to be fixed! My fat is not some awful thing that needs to be rehabilitated!
Thin privilege is the fact that the terms “Summer body” and “bikini body” automatically make people envision thin women.
Because having a few extra pounds apparently means my body should never be seen during Summer, let alone in something as skimpy as a bikini. *rolls eyes*
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Any time they call you bad for being fat, call them worse for being a bitch, because at least they could choose whether or not to be that way.
A) How about a less misogynist term?
B) Most of these assholes think that being fat is something we choose, which means that any comment along these lines loses its effectiveness.
Hello! I need some advice: Today I got really bad verbally harrased for beeing fat. I was wailting for my train with my child, so I couldn't just get out of this situation. I ignored them by reading stories to my daughter from her book. This Situation was just horrible, and now I feel stupid for doing nothing. What should I do in situations like this?
I always freeze up badly in that kind of street harassment situation. Anybody got good advice?
(tw: binge eating)
I just want to thank you and all of fat Tumblr. Over the past few months my self-image has changed so much. I’ve bought some nice clothes, instead of breaking down in changing rooms thinking I failed myself by being fat. I’ve cut my hair into a pixie and dyed it, something I always thought I’d do “when I’m finally thin”. I’ve binged a lot less, and I don’t dream of binging anymore. I feel less anxious about my weight when around (new) people. Yes, I still have some ways to go towards complete mental health/a healthy body image/confidence. But I’ve come so much further than I ever thought. Thank you and keep spreading the word! :)
There has been a sudden rise in students taking crystal meth and other hard drugs at my university. To combat this, my university has put up a lot of anti-drug posters around campus, featuring “before and after” pictures of people who have done meth with typical “don’t do drugs” and “meth ruins lives” slogans.
I was recently walking to class when I walked past two girls looking at these posters. One giggled and said, “She looks better in the ‘after’ picture. At least she isn’t fat anymore!” and the other responded with, “yeah! If meth can make you that thin, then more fat people should try it! haha”
Thin privilege is seeing dangerous, life-threatening, and illegal drugs as a positive thing because “at least they make you thin”.
Thin privilege is being treated like a paying customer when you go shopping.
Given the well documented fat shaming history of Lululemon, it’s obviously not a store I would support or a place I’d ever shop for myself (not that there’s anything there that fits me anyway…) however my 14 year old niece desperately wanted a pair of lululemon pants for her birthday. Perhaps I was stupid for going into that store in the first place and expecting anything other than discriminatory treatment, but I need a place to vent so here goes:
My niece is a small fat and barely over 5’1” so usually fits into a size 10/12 (which is the largest lululemon carries) and apparently all the other girls at her school wear lululemon so she wants to fit in. My sister (her mother) and I took her on a lunch/shopping date for her birthday. Since life is tough for a fat teenager at school and my niece is a sweet, kind, generous young lady, I really wanted to help make the day special for her. A $100 pair of pants is not generally in the budget for my sister, so my niece was so excited to pick out her “lulus”. We got there about 10 minutes after the store opened so it was almost empty with only one other customer and the discrimination started right away. First of all, there’s almost no space between tables and racks, making it awkward for my sister and I to move around. Then there were the glares for the employees. We made our way over to the pants section to find that the “larger” size 12s were buried at the bottom, with only a couple colors if any. My niece picked out a few 10s and 12s to try, and took them to the fitting area where there were about 4 attendants milling around chatting. The only other customer in the store area was a tall, slim girl and they were positively doting on her. Suggesting styles, giving her advice on fit, taking clothes away, running all over the store to find sizes, etc. Meanwhile, my niece stood there awkwardly and finally had to approach someone to even get a changeroom. The 10s did not fit her, and the only 12s were in the cropped version when she really wanted the long. Noticing that the employees were running to the back to look for shades (not even colors, shades of colors, like the blue grey instead of the steel grey) for the thin girl, and then helping her order in anything they didn’t have, we asked a man if there were any 12 pants thinking maybe they were in the back. He practically sneered at us and asked if we’d checked the shelves. When were said yes, he didn’t offer to look in the stores or order in, or suggest a style, or anything, just said “whatever’s out there is what’s it. We don’t specialize in big sizes” and turned his back. Of course this all happened in front of the thin customer and she just stood there like a smug ice queen. My niece is already self conscious and i could see her eyes welling up. I suggested going to another store entirely, but she was desperate for lululemon so we ended up having to buy the cropped version which only came in plain black without any of the colored bands she was admiring. It broke my heart to see her special day ruined even if I KNOW I should have expected better from a misogynist fat shaming store like lululemon.