This is Thin Privilege

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Valentine’s Day.

It’s a really shitty, inherently exclusive holiday.  No one likes being excluded, teenagers in the throes of puberty least of all.  I remember I had to mentally prepare myself (more than I usually had to at any rate) to face school that day, prepare myself to smile stoically as thin, popular, pretty people were showered with candygrams, carnations, and attention, as they compared how many flowers they got, as they ate their candy bars and complained to me that they didn’t get more.  Please note they were complaining to a girl who never received one goddamn candygram or carnation throughout all four years of high school.

Was it because I was fat?  Is that why I was always excluded, why I always hated Valentine’s Day?  I’m not in high school anymore, and I don’t know.  And I wish I could say I didn’t care and toss it over my shoulder like the mature adult I am, but I can’t.  I bought myself flowers and ate some of those powdery heart candies that everyone hates (but I love them, and you should too, they are sugary in the best way), to console myself and make me feel like I’m amazing and totally not lonely and miserable.  

So if you are also struggling with feelings of loneliness and comparing your Valentine’s exploits (or lack thereof) to some loved-by-society thin person’s, hey, it’s okay.  I have done that, far, far more than I care to admit outside the internet.  But I think you’re cooler than that thin person.  You’re reading TITP, I’m willing to bet you are way hotter, more compassionate, more logical, and at least 3.5 times sexier than this thin random ass person.  God you’re awesome.  Will you be my Valentine?

shakethecobwebs:

people will always call out people for saying “fuck skinny bitches” but when the diet commercial comes on, when the fat jokes are being made, when conversations about how fat people are detriments to society are underway, when a size 6 expects her size 26 friend to go with her to the mall even though there ain’t shit for her fat ass there, when girls are saying “i can’t cut my hair short because my face would look fat” & “when i learned that drinking alcohol could make you gain weight i felt like my life was over!!!”, and when family/friends/TOTAL STRANGERS are saying “we’re just worried about your health” y’all STAY quiet

because body-shaming someone who “doesn’t deserve it” would be the worst thing you could do, right? 

(via sugaredvenom)

the-goddamazon:

the-bitch-goddess-success:

I cant even find panties in a department store that fit me and you really wanna talk about shaming? 

Fuck you.

The world worships thin people.

One song that says “fuck skinny bitches” when you got niggas like A$AP Rocky talmbout “you stuck wit a fat ho and she wanna stuff her face” and countless other fucking songs degrading big people.

Nicki Minaj isn’t even fucking fat! That song is literally for curvaceous but acceptably-sized women. “Little in the middle but she packs much back.”

Yet you’re going on a rant against fat women acting like we fucking bully skinny women? NOT A SINGLE WOMAN IN THE ANACONDA VIDEO WAS EVEN FAT. FUCK YOU.

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fatbodypolitics:

Being fat carries with it a lot of cultural baggage. At the same time, fat people, especially fat women, are supposed to pretend we don’t exist or that we’re not fat. I can’t count the number of times thin people have made reference to fat people or fatness in a negative or joking way in front of me, from the petite woman sitting next to me at the coffee shop complaining about fat people on airplanes, to my friends who routinely make jokes about their “inner fat kids” coming out when they eat a lot, to the women in my family who compete to see who can look the thinnest in family photos. Sometimes it feels like I’m not even there, or that I’m not supposed to be. - Lisa C. Knisely

http://bitchmagazine.org/article/its-not-me-its-you-dating-while-fat-louie (via fresafresca)

(via lovingmyselfishard)

Can a thin person have body image struggles? Can a thin person be at war with their self-image? Can a thin person hate to look in the mirror?

Absolutely.

And does that suck?

Absolutely.

But the difference between these negative feelings and fatphobia is this: The only person worrying about whether or not I’m meeting beauty standards is me.

And that’s not the same for fat folk.

When you’re not thin, other people on the beach actually do take offense. When you’re not thin, people really do think that you shouldn’t be in a bathing suit. When you’re not thin, people really do make your body their moral obligation.

And while your internal struggle is real and significant, the point is: You might hate your body, but society doesn’t.

That’s thin privilege.

Let’s Talk About Thin Privilege — Everyday Feminism (via samanticshift)

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One thing that always gets me about the whole “you’re not oppressed if you can change X thing” is… even leaving aside whether or not it can be changed, who cares? Over here in the UK, the city of Manchester started recording attacks against members of subcultures (like goths) as hate crimes, because they noted that violent groups specifically targeted them for their subculture. Even though the identifiers for that - clothes etc - can easily be changed. BECAUSE ATTACKING SOMEONE FOR BEING DIFFERENT - NO MATTER WHAT THAT DIFFERENCE IS - IS AN ACT OF HATE.

i just wanted to say thanks for the blog. it's helped me reconceptualize a lot of the (seemingly) benign attitudes that permeate my life so i can better understand what's damaging and dangerous to people in situations i can't personally relate to. i've seen a lot of people trying to tone police you, and i just want to reiterate that no one has the right to tell you how to experience or express your oppression, irrespective of another's comfort levels. this blog is invaluable; thank you & be well

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Thin Privilege is not being labeled as an unfit mother

Thin privilege is not being labeled a bad mother because you are fat.
I’m fat so that automatically means my children are at risk for obesity.
I know what it’s like to grow up fat. I know what it’s like to be teased constantly and to never be able to shop at regular stores. I know what it’s like to not be wanted because I’m fat. I know what it feels like to be labeled lazy, greedy and ugly because I am fat. Do I want that for my children? Absolutely not.

Thin privilege is not having someone hope that my children get taken away because I look like an unfit mother, because I am fat.

Thin privilege is not having your family assume your bad eating habits will rub off on your children, when you are trying to eat better because of them.

We all know that being overweight can and usually just isn’t healthy.
That isn’t the point we are trying to make.
The fact is, fat, skinny, black, white, yellow, brown, gay, lesbian, trans or otherwise, we are all human beings capable of being loved and giving love. Even the biggest douchebag you can think of is deserving of love. If someone so hated can be loved by someone else, why can’t fat people be loved?

If I want to be fat and I am happy and I have people that love me, then what the hell is it to you? 

I’m submitting this here because I’ve seen this both on personal blogs on my dash and through you guys today and you have a wider readership than I do.

Fun Fact of the Day: Unless you are either stalking them, or they are reporting back to you every second of the day, you have no idea what any person other than yourself is doing with their time or how they get through the day.  Therefore, you have no business making assumptions about how they eat, how they exercise, or why they don’t exercise.

Bonus Fun Fact: Unless you have an actual PhD to your name, you have no business complaining about non-doctors giving out solicited medical advice while, in the same breath, giving out unsolicited medical advice.

The thing about bodily autonomy is that no one gets a say in what any one else can or cannot, is or isn’t doing with their own body.

The thing about personal responsibility is that it’s personal and that sole persongets to decide what they want and can be responsible for in their own life and with their own body.

And unless you’re going to start complaining about your tax money going towards the fire department when you’ve never needed their services and don’t participate in behaviors that would make you more likely to need their services, then let’s just skip over the “BUT MY TAX DOLLARS” argument.

Positive story: I've had eating disorders my whole life due to fatphobia I face. Today, I realized that no matter how thin or fat I was, when I love my body, it was not for its size. Yes, I'm fat. And I'm the strongest girl I know. And I love that.

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